Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academy-advaita.com
6th August 2018
Humans meet each other and human conversation happens in different situations and circumstances. Every conversation is either favourable or unfavourable. If the conversation is favourable, more of the same is wished, wanted and desired.
If any conversation in any situation and circumstance is unfavourable, it is not wished, wanted or desired to happen again. Efforts are put into place so that the next conversation in that particular situation and circumstance is favourable.
Every moment in life happens unconditionally. Every moment happens unconditionally because man does not make any moment in life. If man were able to make any moment in life, he could also make the conversation with anyone with conditions.
Conversation with anyone happens unconditionally, because every moment in life happens unconditionally. If man were able to make the moment in life, he could very well make the conversation conditionally.
Conversation nevertheless happens unconditionally, because man does not make the moment in life. The moment in life was much before man was manifested in the moment.
This wisdom implies that even the conversation with conditions happens unconditionally. Wisdom implies that the reaction or response that happens in the conversation is unconditional as well, but it nevertheless happens.
This implies that the conditions in the conversation are illusory and not real. This signifies that the reaction or response in any conversation, which is either acceptable or unacceptable, is illusory as well and not real.
Humans, who have knowledge of what a conversation should be and what it should not be, accept the conversation as it should be and do not accept the conversation as it is.
Humans, with knowledge of conversation, undergo the consequences of the unfavourable conversation in the particular situation and circumstance. The consequences are regret, pain, tears, despair and agony, to mention a few.
As the reaction and response in conversation in any situation and circumstance in the moment are what they are and cannot be other than what they are, the wise with deep understanding of the wisdom of conversation, accept every conversation as it happens and are calm and patient always.
Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V. S. Shankar 2018
The use of conversation in live, human communication is a social imperative that takes place between no less than two people. It may take the shape of showing respect or disrespect between communicants. It may be used formally, even professionally, to test and explore ideas. Kudos may become an individual’s reward for skill. Understanding the words of Dr. Shankar presented here gradually opens the way for the touch of humanity and wisdom to be realized in man’s daily affairs.
Julian Capper, UK.
German Translator’s Note:
In humans with knowledge, the ability has not yet developed to listen calmly. Especially when it is a difficult conversation, one's own mind hears what one thinks about what the other wants to say instead of what the other really wants to say. Out of impatience and expectations, out of self-righteousness and craving for recognition, there is no actual conversation between two people, but only an inner monologue projected outwards and intended to be imposed on the other. Dr. Shankar's insight into the nature of wise conversation is a gift: the patient understanding of humans with each other, which in times like these – and at what times not? – is needed so urgently.
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany.