Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academ-advaita.com
9 April 2020
Hard feelings are resentment or bitter indignation, meaning anger or annoyance at having been treated unfairly. If you say ' no hard feelings', you are making an agreement with someone not to be angry or annoyed about anything as a good will gesture.
Why be concerned for the future which does not exist? Understand deeply that the present, which exists, is as the ‘here and now’. Life manifests the present ‘here and now’ and neither man nor woman presents the ‘here and now’.
Understand that the more you are concerned about your future, the more it shows lack of trust in life. Understand that you have many feelings, which are either as hard feelings or are pleasant in your mind.
Understand all that ever exists in life and will ever exist in life is just the moment ‘here and now’. This moment ‘here and now’ is all there is in life. Only one moment and not two in the same moment.
This one moment is just light and sound in life. This one moment replaces itself and the mind with thoughts does not replace any moment in life or in the mind.
Understand that the mind with thoughts is limited in its function. It does not function at the speed of life. Understand that hard feelings, as thoughts, are in your mind as illusions of sound.
Understand that your hard feelings, as thoughts in the mind, trouble the other. The other is hurt by them. Is it not so? Understand that life is precise in its flow and the flow of life will go the way it is meant to go
Understand that the pleasant feelings you have in mind, particularly in a family, the feelings of the husband and the feelings of the wife, keep you, the family and friends in harmony.
Understand that the hard feelings you have in mind, particularly in a family, the feelings of the husband and the feelings of the wife, keep you, the family and friends at loggerheads.
Understand that hard feelings result in different degrees of friction. The wife cannot handle it, the husband cannot handle it and the friends cannot handle it. Also there is a great degree of tension between the husband, the wife and friends.
A wise man and a wise woman understand that the hard feelings create a drama of light and sound.
The enlightened live their feelings and neither define nor describe them.
Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V.S. Shankar 2020
In knowledge man lives in a world of judgements and opinions energised by life’s intelligence. Judgements and opinions are justified by beliefs and ideas held in the conditioned mind, which may be accompanied by negative emotions. Man commonly uses the expression the ‘here and now’ to draw attention away from situations imagined to have happened or to be about to happen. Or to apply himself efficiently to the task before him, such as an athlete attempting a new height in pole vault. The wise understand that the here and now is a single, eternal moment in life that flows precisely as it will. The whole of existence is within the moment, the present moment here and now. All else is illusion – the play of light and sound.
Julian Capper. UK
German Translator‘s Note:
This article does not advise the reader to suppress his or her hard feelings, which are present from time to time. There is an invitation to live all feelings as they are, without expressing them. This is based on the understanding that resentment and other negative emotions cannot serve life in harmony with oneself and others. The drama remains in the mind and is not shifted to the outside. Thus its illusory power cannot create any apparent reality and does not cause any harm.
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany.