Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academy-advaita.com
The Netherlands

14 November 2017



A man and a woman in a family are hurt mentally at some time or the other in daily life. They may also be hurt many times in a day. This depends on the way anyone talks to each other in a family.

When a man or woman is hurt once or twice a day by the manner of how each talks with the other and, if the hurt is minimal, the hurt is easily forgiven and forgotten. But, if either is deeply hurt, it is difficult to forgive and forget.

If man or woman is frequently hurt by the way each talks with the other in a family, daily life becomes difficult. So why does talking hurt anyone in a family needs to be understood deeply, for every member of the family to live every day in harmony.

When a man or woman is hurt in a family, disharmony prevails in the house and love for each other is absent. When disharmony is present and love is absent it eventually affects the health as well.

No one wishes, wants or desires to be hurt and no one prays to God to be hurt on any day. Scriptures too do not advise anyone to hurt the other. But, despite reading scriptures or praying to God, man and woman do get hurt due to the way one talks to the other in a family.

Every man or woman in a family needs to understand that anything can be said softly, calmly and with love or rashly, with anger and hate.  Talking in a family happens softly, calmly and with love when you understand that it is the intelligence in life, meaning God, which has manifested every member of the family.

Every man or woman in a family needs to understand that, if talking is done rashly and angrily, which indicates hate, you are merely expressing anger and hate to God’s creation, meaning the manifestation of the intelligence in life.

Every man or woman in a family needs to understand to accept God’s creation, meaning the manifestation in life. If every man or woman in a family accepts God’s creation, he or she will only talk to each other or to any member of the family softly, calmly and lovingly.

Talking softly, calmly and lovingly brings each member of the family together and each one will look after the other with unconditional love, care and concern. No one in the family will ever get hurt and their health will also be healthy.

A loving family is important because every family will get new members at some point in life. The new member will love the family and will also talk softly, calmly and lovingly.

Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V. S. Shankar 2017

Editor’s Note:
Here is a wonderful declaration of the significance of the family of man: your family, my family and everyone’s family. At the heart of the health and happiness of every community is the health and happiness of each family. The realization of the family and of each member as an expression of God, an expression of the intelligence of life, will never fade. Such is the depth of the understanding of the wise as gifted in this article.
Julian Capper, UK.

German Translator’s Note: 
How we talk to each other in daily life seems to be of little importance. However, as Dr. Shankar points out wisely, the way we talk is the basis for a healthy relationship. Love and care is expressed as well as promoted by talking to each other lovingly. Blaming and condemnation of the other leads to hate and conflict. This leads to a situation in which one of the two wins and the other loses. Addressing the basic needs of each other and trying to find solutions for daily life issues which favor both sides unites a family. Both sides win. This is healthy and makes a family happy. 
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany. 

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