Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academy-advaita.com
The Netherlands
21 April 2021
Marriage
“Wedding”
Every girl dreams about her wedding. Every girl may or may not get married but, nevertheless she dreams of getting married. When will a girl’s dream of her wedding get materialised is not dreamt by any girl.
The actuality of the wedding-moment remains a mystery. It remains a mystery because neither man nor woman makes any moment in life. Everyone is within the moment and they cannot make a moment to be within it.
What is within a moment cannot be other than what is within the moment. This implies that we are within the moment and we do not make the moment to be within it.
This wisdom signifies that two people are within the same moment, but not within the same space in the moment. This implies that the two spaces within the same moment may be close to each other or at a distance from each other.
When two people are within the same moment and the space in the moment is close to each other, meeting takes place between the two people. The meeting between the two people may be harmonious or not.
The wisdom of the space and moment reveals the mystery of marriage and wedding. The first point in wisdom is: The marriage through wedding happens in the eternal moment, of which no-one is in control.
The second point in wisdom is: The outcome of the wedding cannot be other than what is within the moment that is after the wedding moment, which may or may not be harmonious.
The third point in wisdom is: If you can determine the moment of wedding, only then can you determine the outcome of wedding in every other moment after the moment of wedding.
Knowledge informs that marriage, the wedding and everything and everyone concerned and connected with the wedding control it. The outcome of any wedding is not informed by the knowledge people and the wedding couple have.
The enlightened live their wedding every moment of the wedding and the moments after the wedding no matter what the knowledge is of the moments.
Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V. S. Shankar 2021
Editor’s Note:
Marriage may be one of the most celebrated events in the daily life of a human being. The planning for the wedding and its ceremony shines like the brightest star in the lives of those involved. Here, Dr Shankar offers the blessed, wedding gift of understanding. Man has been conditioned since time immemorial to believe, even to know, beyond all peradventure, that he or she is the controller in all daily activity, especially in the marriage of a son or daughter. Yet, in wisdom, the understanding of the enlightened, both here and elsewhere, reveals the magic of the moment in this most human of affairs.
Julian Capper, UK.
German Translator‘s Note:
All humans on earth live as the same eternal moment. However, only certain humans live together in the same moment in spatial proximity, some married to each other, some not. A girl's dream is a happy marriage and love in the family. This is contrasted with the conditioning of the mind which, through duality, if not deeply understood, brings discord and conflict. Matrimonial drama is thereby precisely manifested by life, also as an opportunity to overcome the duality of the mind by understanding it as an apparent separation in the eternal singular moment. As Dr. Shankar explains, the moment contains everything that happens within it, albeit illusory. To live this understanding together in an unconditional way with all, and especially those who are near us, is unconditional love. May this understanding become reality and be the result of every wedding!
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany.