Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academy-advaita.com
The Netherlands

11th May 2019



Knowledge informs that quarrel means a heated argument or disagreement, typically about a trivial issue and between people who are usually on good terms. Knowledge reveals that siblings quarrel, lovers quarrel, friends quarrel, husband and wife quarrel.

Knowledge reveals that even colleagues quarrel and that no-one is free from quarrel. This is because it is present between everyone in different situations and not just in one particular situation.

Knowledge reveals that a quarrel is usually accepted, but sometimes a quarrel leads to disruption in harmony in the location. This is especially in the house with family and children where it even leads to unwanted consequences.

Knowledge reveals that a quarrel brings couples closer to each other when they meet after temporary separation. The separation may be short or long and it definitely puts a strain on the relationship. Nobody wants a strain in relationship.

Wisdom regarding a prominent, trivial or any issue, however, is free of quarrel and harmony is always present in any situation, especially in the house among couples and children.

What is the wisdom of any issue, is the question? 

Wisdom reveals that any issue in life is present in the moment. Wisdom reveals that a moment in life is always present. Wisdom reveals that a moment, which is always present in life, is precise. Wisdom reveals that the content, which is within any moment, is precise as well.

Wisdom reveals that the content which is within any moment cannot be other than the content which is in the moment. Wisdom reveals that the timing of the content is always precise as well.

Wisdom in life reveals that the content within the moment is neither late nor early. Wisdom in life reveals that the content of any moment in life is always precisely on time.

Wisdom in life reveals that the content of the moment is the issue in life. Wisdom in life reveals that an issue in any moment cannot be another issue besides the issue in the moment.

Wisdom in life reveals that man and woman do not make any moment in life. Wisdom reveals that the moment in life was in life much before man and woman were in life. 

Knowledge takes an issue and quarrel for granted as needed, because man and woman believe they are the doers. Man and woman with wisdom regarding any issue, however, understand that neither man nor woman is a doer and what is said or done within any moment cannot be other than what is said or done within the moment. 

Man and woman with this wisdom accept what is done or said in any moment by them and never quarrel.  Therefore, harmony in life is always present in the family with man and woman with this wisdom.

The enlightened accept man and woman as they are and accept what is said and done by them in any moment of daily life.  

Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V. S. Shankar 2019

Editor’s Note:
In the first instance, the word quarrel indicates an arrow used with a crossbow in an unfriendly situation. In the second instance, the word quarrel indicates the use of words in an unfriendly dialogue. In both instances blame is ascribed leading to disharmony, albeit time-limited. However, the wise reveal here through Dr Shankar, that whatever is contained within any moment is precise and cannot be other than what is in the moment. Gifted with this revelation, there is acceptance of what is said and never any loss of harmony. Understand that man is not the doer.
Julian Capper, UK.

German Translator‘s Note: 
Man thinks he quarrels with other humans. However, as Dr. Shankar repeatedly makes clear, man is never the doer in life. Since this is so, man is never in conflict with other people, but in fact quarrels with the life that is. The one who experiences the happiness of recognizing the senselessness, of not wanting to accept the existing, albeit illusory, is free of quarrel in every moment and accepts life with all humans in the moment as it is. 
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany. 

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