Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academy-advaita.com
The Netherlands

29th October 2017



Every man and woman wishes for a contented relationship with whomever they live with, meet or come to know. This is either with family members or with old or new friends as well. This is because contentment not only brings peace, it is peace as well.

The conditioned knowledge about relationships, contentment and peace nevertheless does not bring peace into any relationship that man or woman has with another, be it between spouses, brothers and sisters, relatives or friends.

Relationship is a major factor in everyone’s life, because daily life functions with reference to the relationship that man or woman has with anyone. Therefore, everyone wishes for peace in a relationship.

Relationships are influenced by the knowledge of actions, conversation and feelings about each other in any situation that man or woman has. Knowledge convinces that man or woman is responsible for the action, conversation or feelings, because knowledge makes man or woman believe that he or she is the doer.

Wisdom of action, conversation and feelings, however, deconditions the knowledge of action, conversation and feelings.

An action is a movement and the body is in movement before the action, but the movement before the action is not labelled as an action. Similarly, the body is in movement after the action, but the movement after the action is not labelled as an action. 

This implies that the body is always moving and that the moving body may or may not be labelled as an action. Also, there are so many movements within the action that are neither determined as actions nor labelled as actions. 

This signifies that a distinct cut-off point between one action and the next is absent. This implies that the body is in a singular movement and this singular movement of the body appears intermittently as illusory actions, conversations and feelings. 

The significance of this wisdom reveals that the movement of the body that happens every moment is controlled by neither man nor woman, because a moment in life is neither made by man nor woman. 

This wisdom further reveals that neither man nor woman is a doer and an action, conversation or feeling that is meant to happen only happens. When this wisdom cements everyone will be at peace and contented not only with himself, but also with everyone they know or live with.

Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V. S. Shankar 2017

Editor’s Note:
Daily life, whether on a micro or macro stage, involves relationships. The quality of the relationship may be determined by many factors, such as expectation, need, demand, honesty and reliability, to name but a few. Implicit in these relationships is the conditioned assumption that man is responsible for the outcome. Thus, peace and contentment may not be the experience. The understanding of the wise as gifted in this article declares that neither man nor woman is a doer. Understanding this is the dawning of peace and harmony.
Julian Capper, UK.

German Translator’s Note: 
Guilt, anger, conflict and blame are the ground of the relationship a conditioned mind has with others and itself. Even when we are alone, there is the relationship we have with ourselves. As much a good relationship counts with every other human being, be it friends, colleges, spouses and children, our relationship with ourselves counts even more for happiness in daily life. That neither man nor woman, neither boy nor girl is a doer, is the wisdom that helps us to find peace in every relationship in daily life. Dr. Shankar once more gives humanity the key to contentment and happiness in daily life. 
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany. 

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