Dr. Vijai S Shankar MD.PhD.
Published on www.academy-advaita.com
The Netherlands

19 January 2018

Wife and Husband

“Partners in life”

God or the intelligence in life has manifested every marriage in daily life. The significance of marriage is that husband and wife both are partners in marriage each having his or her responsibilities of a partner to live the five human values of prema, shanti, satya, dharma and ahimsa.

Marriage is usually taken for granted by the husband and the wife. Each have their own beliefs of marriage. Their own beliefs of marriage eventually lead to misunderstanding between them.

Only on the day of marriage there is prema, shanti, satya, dharma and ahimsa. In the days that follow marriage, however, the misunderstanding between them increases and leads to disharmony in the marriage and in the house.

Every marriage is conducted by religious protocols that include divine blessings on the married couple as well. But, nevertheless, marital discord is present in every marriage either frequently, every other day or sometimes even every day.

If every partner in marriage understands and lives the five human values, the partners in marriage will be just as they were on the first day of his or her marriage, filled with prema, shanti, satya, dharma and ahimsa. 

So what the understanding of the five human values in marriage could be needs deep pondering.

A wife needs to understand that her husband, firstly, has invited his wife into his family. Secondly, she needs to understand that her husband gives her a house to live in and protects her from harm.

A wife needs to understand that no-one other than her husband can give her protection and a roof over her head and an opportunity to be a mother and have her children and raise them as well.

A wife needs to understand that her children, including herself, need her husband to protect her and her children. A wife needs to understand that she has rights in her husband’s house and has no rights even in her parents’ house.

When a wife understands this, she is grateful to her husband. The gratitude is expressed if the wife talks with her husband daily with prema, meaning with unconditional love and makes him feel important in his house.

The gratitude expressed by the wife to her husband makes both the husband and the wife live the five human values. There will be no argument in the house and the house will be filled with prema, shanti, satya, dharma and ahimsa in every moment of every day and every day will be just as the first day of marriage.

Author: Dr. Vijai S. Shankar
© Copyright V. S. Shankar 2017

Editor’s Note:
When the singularly human contract of marriage between a man and a woman is agreed and undertaken, it is universally recognized and respected. It is usually celebrated with due public ceremony and formality. Celebrated too on this special occasion and shared by all present are the display and expression of the five human values, as revealed in these articles from Dr Shankar. Those who come to understand this become partners in life.
Julian Capper, UK.

German Translator’s Note: 
Marriage is a wonderful opportunity to come close to God. Every human is a form of God or the intelligence of life. Therefore if one wants to be near to God, he or she needs to full of gratitude in every situation of daily life. Dr. Shankar in this article gives a hint to the wife to be grateful for everything the husband shares with the family, be it his love, protection and everything a family needs for living. Gratitude makes both wife and husband near to each other and near to God, as everyone is a form of God or the intelligence in life. 
Marcus Stegmaier, Germany. 

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